“If you want to be my disciple, you must hate everyone else by comparison—your father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters—yes, even your own life. Otherwise, you cannot be my disciple. (Luke 14:26 NLT)
Clearly, from the testimony of many other scriptures, God doesn't want us to "hate" (in the sense we think of the word) those dearest to us. But, there can be no rivals to the love we have for Him. Our passion for Him must supersede all other passions in this life or the other competing passions become idols hindering our relationship with Him. When compared to the love we have for Christ, no other love should even come close!
